How to Ask for Help

Why do we have so much trouble asking for help sometimes (and for some of us – all of the time)?

Here’s the thing folks, what happens when someone asks you for help? Okay, not a whiny-butt that is always asking for help even though they could easily do it themselves. Someone whom you consider a competent, successful individual? You want to help them right? Matter of fact, you’re flattered they asked and feel good helping them. So – why are you denying an individual those same warm, fuzzy, and feel good feelings by giving them the opportunity to help you?

I can’t emphasize enough how important this is to superachieving. I would not have been able to accomplish all that I have in my life without help.  Once I learned to ask for it, my superachieving took off.

Regardless of where you are on your ability to ask for help, we could all use a little improvement. Here are some strategies I’ve used and continually use to improve myself in this area.

  1. I only ask for help when I truly need it. We all have that person in our lives that could easily look up an answer to something – most likely through Google, but they ask us because it’s easier. Don’t do this! This is like the “boy who cried wolf” story – if you are constantly asking for help, when you really need it, people will be less likely to help you.
  2. Unless it is an emergency situation, don’t ask someone you don’t know for help. I have found that you need to take the time to get to know the person, build trust, show them that you are competent and of good character. An exception to this strategy would be if you are coming together with another to help each other in some way, such as two entrepreneurs partnering to work on a contract that they couldn’t do alone. What is not subject to exception is ensuring the other person is honest and of good character. Nothing will slow down your superachieving efforts more than consorting with dishonest folks.  Why? Because superachieving is positively impacting the world while bettering yourself.
  3. So, you only ask for help when you truly need it and build a relationship with the person first. The final strategy would be to be a person that has helped many others. Obviously, you don’t help others with the sole intent of calling in a favor in the future. However, it is human nature to feel indebted to those whom have helped us. So, having helped many others in the past, it is easier to ask them for assistance. We all know what it feels like to be able to help someone who has helped us in the past (at least I hope we do!) – it brings a great sense of satisfaction.

Who are you going to ask for help TODAY?