We’ve all been there – you’re faced with some sort of opportunity or invitation and you must decide whether to say yes or no. It could be a job offer, and invitation to a party, a move across country, or an unexpected trip. If we’re lucky, we either know it is right for us immediately or know it is wrong for us immediately and provide an answer. Here’s the tricky thing though – it’s not always evident at first glance on how we should respond. What do we do? We use the Yes/No strategy!
This is how it works – after you complete a pros and cons list, and find that that alone doesn’t do the trick, ask yourself: “if I say yes to this, what am I saying no to?” Conversely, “if I say no to this, what am I saying yes to?” This simple strategy includes making a traditional pros and cons list; however, it takes it even deeper because to take advantage of certain opportunities, we must give up others and this amazing tool helps make that crystal-clear. And the beauty of it is that you can use it for any decision.
Let’s say you get an invite for small social gathering happening next week. You quickly run through the pros and cons. Pros – you get to see some friends you haven’t seen in a while, there will be some other valuable contacts present to add to your network, they’re going to have wine (or whatever your favorite beverage is). Cons – you have a very busy week and an even busier weekend and were hoping to chill that night and the social gathering is about 45 minutes of travel time. Still not quite clear on what to do? Well, if I say yes to this, I’m saying no to chilling at home. This simple statement makes it crystal-clear – I can give up one night chilling at home for all the benefits I’m going to get attending the social gathering (based on my values and extroverted tendencies.) If chilling at home is a high value for you, then your answer is still very clear, just in a different way. Make sense?
Try out this strategy today!