067: Interview of Superachiever Caroline Hanover

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In this episode of Quit Bleeping Around, awesome superachiever, author, and former FBI violent crime analyst and senior manager Christina Eanes interviews superachiever Caroline Hanover. As an independent consultant and coach, Caroline works with clients to be their best self through self-awareness and in the moment inquiry. Cher practice focuses on leaders and leadership teams to create workplaces that are open and more productive. In this episode, Caroline discusses the importance of mindfulness, reflection, and a sense of humor in the world of superachieving.

If you’d like to learn more about Caroline’s company and work, you can follow her on LinkedIn or at her company website: www.talentresultsllc.com.

Episode Credits:

Series Announcer: Seth D. Meyers (sethdmeyers.com)
Host: Christina Eanes (www.quitbleepingaround.com)
Outro: Linnea Sage (www.linneasage.com)
Intro/Outro Music: “Dangerous Dog” by Charlie J. Smith/SI Publishing

How Much of Your Stress is Unnecessary?

I love Kelly McGonigal’s TED Talk about stress titled, “How To Make Stress Your Friend” – she shares that it is not stress that kills us, but how we perceive it.

How we perceive stress has to do with both our brain and our mind working together against a perceived threat.  Being a self-professed Geek, I like to think of the brain as the hardware and the mind as the software – both of which need to be kept in optimum health so that you can achieve whatever you desire (or to simply function well in life). Let’s start with the brain side of things – the brain is an organ in your body – so the health of your body directly affects the health of your brain. This is why you need to exercise, get enough sleep, and make sure you are getting the nutrient’s that your body (and brain) needs.

Taking care of your brain as a part of your body sets the foundation. Before we get to the mind (or the software), it is important to understand the “safety mechanism” your brain has for your survival. When you perceive something as a threat, your brain bypasses the higher conscious functioning portion of your brain (which is where we want to spend most of our time) and goes right into the response mode of fight or flight – although with my experience of people in crisis, I’d also like to add freeze or freak out as responses. Our primal brain chooses one of those responses – the one it deems most appropriate – and goes with it. Here is the problem though – in modern day, we are often not faced with a predator hunting us down, or some other true emergency. Rather, our brain is going into fight, flight, freeze, or freak out in situations that definitely do not qualify as true threats.

I’ve coached several people lately that jumped right into this survival response mode because their expectations weren’t met in a situation or someone at work said something that they felt disrespected them, or other similar situation that definitely wasn’t life threatening. I felt bad for the individuals because I knew that all the stress and the anxiety they were facing – the huge emotional reaction they found themselves in – was all their own doing. If they had understood that their logical mind was hijacked because they got triggered into a survival response, they could have calmed down and then worked their way through the response in a more logical manner. The strategy for making sure you don’t allow your primal brain to hijack your higher functioning is to first, set the foundation by taking proper care of your brain (therefore, your body) and second, understand that if you are not in a true emergency situation and you find yourself having a strong emotional reaction, that you’ve gone into fight or flight and you need to take a break, perhaps do some deep breathing exercises, until you can get back into the logical reasoning portion of your brain.

Which brings us to the mind – there are a lot of different experts out there who have differing opinions on exactly what the mind is – I subscribe to the ones that define it as the software program running on the hardware that is the brain. We already know that it is important for the brain to function well in order for the mind to function well. The mind is what holds our beliefs – our perceptions that we’ve created through our life experiences. This is why understanding that everything we take in from our surrounding world and the people in it, we filter through these beliefs we’ve created – is key to not just surviving this life, but thriving. It is the beliefs that we’ve created that lead to us getting triggered in certain situations, which take us down the rabbit hole of the emotional response of fight or flight. It is fascinating to watch these triggers in action. I was in a meeting once and an individual rolled their eyes – this was not a trigger for most people in the room; however, it was for one particular person and they went off – they became very angry and let everyone else know about it. For some reason, in this person’s past, the rolling of one’s eyes meant something bad to that person. Because they weren’t aware that was a trigger for them, they went into full response mode, by-passing the logical function of their brain, and most likely causing stress damage to both their body and brain.

There you have it folks a very high-level overview of how your brain and mind function together and how important it is to at least be aware of this so that you can at least reduce the stress that you are causing yourself. What is that saying? Something like – it isn’t what happens to you, it’s how you respond.

066: Interview of Superachiever Walter McFarland

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In this episode of Quit Bleeping Around, awesome superachiever, author, and former FBI violent crime analyst and senior manager Christina Eanes interviews superachiever Walter McFarland. Walter is the founder of Windmill Human Performance and co-author of Choosing Change from McGraw Hill. Walter speaks, writes, and consults globally on the topics of leadership, learning, and organizational change. In this episode, Walter shares his wisdom on being gently persistent, surrounding yourself with people who think differently than you, and the importance of not only achieving your dreams, but helping others to do the same.

If you’d like to learn more about Walter, connect with him on LinkedIn or visit his website at www.choosingchangebook.com.

Episode Credits:

Series Announcer: Seth D. Meyers (sethdmeyers.com)
Host: Christina Eanes (www.quitbleepingaround.com)
Outro: Linnea Sage (www.linneasage.com)
Intro/Outro Music: “Dangerous Dog” by Charlie J. Smith/SI Publishing

065: Do or Do Not; There is No Try

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How often do you find yourself using “try” when speaking to others (or yourself)? I will try to be more [insert description], or I will try to [insert goal here]. In this episode of Quit Bleeping Around®, awesome superachiever, author, and former FBI violent crime analyst and senior manager Christina Eanes demonstrates the difference in the way your mind responds to using the word “try” instead of more active language.

Episode Credits:

Series Announcer: Seth D. Meyers (sethdmeyers.com)
Host: Christina Eanes (quitbleepingaround.com)
Outros Announcer: Linnea Sage (linneasage.com)
Intro/Outro Music: “Dangerous Dog” by Charlie J. Smith/SI Publishing

064: Interview of Superachiever Carol Stewart

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In this episode of Quit Bleeping Around, awesome superachiever, author, and former FBI violent crime analyst and senior manager Christina Eanes interviews superachiever Carol Stewart. Carol is an executive, career, and business coach, known as the coach for high achieving introverted women. In 2015, she was named as one of Britain’s top 50 business advisors for the work she does with women exiting the corporate world to start their own businesses. In this episode, Carol discusses how to be authentic, bold, and confident as superachievers so you can go make your impact on the world.

If you’d like to learn more about Carol and her work, visit her website at www.aboundingsolutions.com.

Episode Credits:

Series Announcer: Seth D. Meyers (sethdmeyers.com)
Host: Christina Eanes (www.quitbleepingaround.com)
Outro: Linnea Sage (www.linneasage.com)
Intro/Outro Music: “Dangerous Dog” by Charlie J. Smith/SI Publishing

Ever Tried Working with an Accountability Partner?

Have you ever had an accountability partner? Someone with whom you set goals and then do a regular report in to each other on your progress? If you don’t, I highly recommend you get one (or several) because they can definitely help you step up your achievement efforts. Let’s look at the benefits of an accountability partner and strategies for identifying the right partner for you.

I host a superachiever mastermind group and we have assigned accountability partners to help us move toward our goals more quickly. I have accomplished so much more knowing that I have to report every Friday to this individual – even while on vacation!

I recently was on day two of an amazing vacation. My husband and I had a fun morning and were chilling in the hotel room since it was raining. He decided to take a nap and I wasn’t tired, so I read a bit. But then I started thinking- I’m going to have to report to Pam on Friday that I wrote a chapter in my next book. So I decided to just get it out of the way…. well, I ended up writing two chapters and outlining a keynote I’m doing in the next month (and the hubby was still napping!) I was so happy on my progress, I wrote my check in email to her several days early, telling her of my progress and thanking her for being my accountability partner.

I have attempted the accountability partner thing in the past and it didn’t go so well. Let me share what I’ve learned:

  1. Your accountability partner cannot simply be anyone. I have found that the closer the relationship I have with them, either the more forgiving of me they are when I do not meet my goals or there’s emotional “stuff” wrapped up in them trying to help you remain accountable to your goals. It seems to work best when the person is more of an acquaintance – a colleague with similar goals that you respect and have a professional relationship with.
  2. Before you begin holding each other accountable, design your partnership. This is very important – identify how each of you likes to be motivated. Some questions to ask each other:
    1. How would you like me to respond when you are doing well in achieving your goals?
    2. How would you like me to respond when you are struggling with or not achieving your goals?
    3. How would you like me to respond when you are not challenging yourself enough?
    4. How would you like me to respond when you are beating yourself up unnecessarily?
    5. How will we check in with each other? (phone call, email, in-person meeting, Skype)
    6. How often will we check in with each other?
    7. Is there anything else we should design around our partnership?
  3. Once you build the foundation of your relationship, help each other ensure your goals are actual goals and not just wishes (read my blog titled “Do You Have a Plan? Or a Wish List?” if you’d like to know more).
  4. Adjust your relationship as necessary as you progress through your goals. You might need to change how you respond to each other to keep each other motivated or alter your partnership based on life events that may occur with one or both partners.

If you take the time to identify the right accountability partner and design your relationship with them, you will find yourself accomplishing much more than you thought possible in a shorter amount of time. I’d better go – I need to check in with my partner on my progress for this week.

063: Interview of Superachiever Lisa Mitchell

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In this episode of Quit Bleeping Around, awesome superachiever, author, and former FBI violent crime analyst and senior manager Christina Eanes interviews superachiever Lisa Mitchell. Lisa is a certified body language trainer, executive coach, and corporate trainer. Her mission in life is to help millions of people show up as their most clued in and confident selves in any situation. In this episode, Lisa talks about intentional impact, emotional hijacking, how to “level up” and most importantly, being brave in finding your joy.

If you’d like to learn more about Lisa’s work and stay connected for more great tips, you can follow her on twitter @LisaMitchL or connect with her on LinkedIn.

Episode Credits:

Series Announcer: Seth D. Meyers (sethdmeyers.com)
Host: Christina Eanes (www.quitbleepingaround.com)
Outro: Linnea Sage (www.linneasage.com)
Intro/Outro Music: “Dangerous Dog” by Charlie J. Smith/SI Publishing

062: You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know

Ever heard of the levels of competency? It’s pretty scary to think that you don’t know what you don’t know, isn’t it? In this episode of Quit Bleeping Around®, awesome superachiever, author, and former FBI violent crime analyst and senior manager Christina Eanes introduces the levels of competency and how to work your way up to being “unconsciously competent” – the highest level.

Episode Credits:

Series Announcer: Seth D. Meyers (sethdmeyers.com)
Host: Christina Eanes (quitbleepingaround.com)
Outros Announcer: Linnea Sage (linneasage.com)
Intro/Outro Music: “Dangerous Dog” by Charlie J. Smith/SI Publishing

061: Interview of Superachiever Glenn Garnes

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In this episode of Quit Bleeping Around, awesome superachiever, author, and former FBI violent crime analyst and senior manager Christina Eanes interviews superachiever Glenn Garnes. Glenn is the founder of Village Connector Community, an internet television and radio network that focuses on personal development. In this episode, Glenn discusses the importance of self-development to your evolution as a human being and how it truly does take a village to superachieve.

If you’d like to learn more about Glenn visit www.tipsonsuccess.com and join the community mailing list.

Episode Credits:

Series Announcer: Seth D. Meyers (sethdmeyers.com)
Host: Christina Eanes (www.quitbleepingaround.com)
Outro: Linnea Sage (www.linneasage.com)
Intro/Outro Music: “Dangerous Dog” by Charlie J. Smith/SI Publishing

Do You Have a Plan? Or a Wish List?

I watched the movie Trolls recently with my husband and was surprised at the bits of wisdom that were interspersed throughout. One that really got my attention was when the main male character asked the main female character what her plan was for rescuing their little community from the bad guys. After she named off a list of things, he mentioned how it sounded like a wish list instead of a plan.

Let’s take this concept and apply it to our own lives. I would venture to guess that most individuals have wish lists rather than actual plans for what they’d like to accomplish. Let’s look at your goals that you are currently working on – are they wishes or do you have an actual plan to go after them. If you have an actual plan – congratulations, you are part of the 3% that have specific goals and a plan for achieving them. I’d still keep reading if you feel you have a full plan because it may simply be a more detailed wish list.

I’d like to use an example from a recent strategy session I held with executives of an international company with whom I’ve been working. One of the main goals they decided on as a team was to hold more effective meetings. This, my friends, is not a goal, it is a wish. Why? Because it is not SMART – specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-bound and there isn’t a plan in place to achieve it.

Let’s look at what would make this a plan instead of a wish by identifying the what, why, and the how – first, let’s look at the what by defining exactly what an effective meeting is. In this case, it could be a meeting that is held only as long as needed to go over the topic, attended by the right individuals, and everyone leaves understanding what the next steps are and who is responsible for what. Now the why – we want to have more effective meetings to free up our time to actually do the work. And finally the how – we are going to do this by creating and implementing effective meeting guidelines.

Once we identify the what, why, and how, we can now make this goal more SMART – We will create effective meeting guidelines and implement them over the next 90 days. We don’t stop here though – then we build out a project plan with specific tasks with due dates in order to accomplish the overarching goal. For example, the first task would be to define an effective meeting, to include how to identify the individuals that should attend, what an agenda should look like, etc. Then another task could include creating the guidelines, refining them, and then there will be more tasks around implementing the guidelines and evaluating their effectiveness. I think this is why so many people don’t go past the wish stage – because it can be a lot of work to clearly define and plan out one’s goals.

So far I’ve shared an organizational goal example – how about a personal example. So many of us make “goals” to lose weight or get a promotion, or make X amount of money. Again – these are wishes unless you clearly define them in a SMART goal backed up by project plan. Not too long ago I mentioned on a podcast and in a blog that I have the goal of eventually being a multi-millionaire. If that is all that I had done, this would be considered a wish. However, behind the scenes, I have a multi-page plan for accomplishing this goal to include a number of products and services to be rolled out over the next three years, specifically defining what is going to be done and when for each of the roll outs.

You get the idea – so here is the call to action.  Take a look at your wish list and create a plan – today! I have a system coming out in the very near future to help you do just that – not only to create the plan, but also to accomplish it by maximizing your energy (which is a much more limiting resource that time.)